Damien666x
What you can expect in me

How you can expect to fare with me
- in our being the best of friends -
or in our establishing a monogamous relationship ...

What I do ...

   go all out at Christmas time - try to create an "old-fashioned" Christmas, as much as possible; really decorate the house and yard; cook an excellent dinner; try to buy gifts which have sentimental value to their recipients

   if I may be frank - and haven't I been throughout this site? - I'm a real sexhound - insatiable, practically - I will want to have sex with you all of the time, and you can rest assured that this will be at the LEAST "daily" / "nightly" - I strive to please my partner, always to the greatest satisfaction - I'm willing to try something new ( huh - if there's anything LEFT !!  just kidding ... ). So, don't be thrown aback or hesitate if you've already read the "sex page" about my background ... Some sexual abuse survivors are indeed VERY inhibited - believe me, I'm NOT one of them. I may be a bit inhibited, initially, but once we're frequent flyers you'll definitely enjoy the ride ...

   I'm a workaholic - to at least some extent. I have a career rather than a "job," and yes, it does infiltrate throughout my life. I do the same in my studying, and with my music, and with just about anything which I like/ love/ have an interest in ...  But, believe me - there's plenty of time for play, too. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I'm reminded of a line which "Captain Kirk" spoke in an episode called "Shore Leave" in the original 1960's "Star Trek" series:

"The more complex the mind, the greater the need for the simplicity of play ..."

Being a workaholic also has its advantages - it allows me to be a good provider, as well ...
 
 

What I don't do ...

   grocery shopping - for some reason, I find this task especially annoying and always tend to put it off - WAY beyond doing it at "the last minute" - in other words, when everything has run out. I think that the reason behind this is that I am just so thoroughly disgusted by the prices of food - and it bothers me to think about how many people cannot afford to eat well. If you don't mind - or even ENJOY doing this "chore," then you're a PERFECT match for someone like me, who is annoyed by having to do it ...

   housekeeping - this is definitely NOT one of my strong points in life. I've come to the conclusion that I may very well NEVER be "good at" this task throughout the rest of my life - therefore, someone who IS good at it is a good match for me. Do I want or expect to be waited on hand and foot, and cleaned up after - constantly? No - not quite. But a lot of the time I am too busy to even get around to doing housework. Even splitting it with someone would help me out.

What I'd like in you ...

   You don't want to "sacrifice" your current life, but you DO want to build a "new life" with me - one in which we each enhance the positive parts of each of our current lives, discard the negative aspects of our current lives, and build upon our mutual interests in order to create a happier life for both of us ...

   Preferably, you have an interest/ desire to help me fix up my current house, yard, and perhaps the rest of the old farmstead - FOR US ...  If not, we plan to eventually live together somewhere else ... Essentially, to make a house - somewhere - a HOME ...

   You totally "turn me on ..."  Time is non-existent whenever we're together.

What I won't put up with ...

   cheating on me - once we've made a commitment, and have that mutual understanding - i.e.  that it is now "US..." Basically, this means sneaking behind my back and having sex with someone else, in the strictest sense of its definition. If there is someone that you would really like to have sex with, we'd talk about this. If I knew that it was driving you nuts and you really wanted to experience that - but that is ALL that it would be and that it would lead to nothing further ( like us breaking up ) - then I wouldn't encourage it, but I would likely permit it. How much could I really LOVE you to deny you that experience? Yes - QUITE a different way of looking at things, I KNOW. But I would have faith and confidence in you enough - I would TRUST you enough - that I would KNOW that this is all it was: the fulfillment of a fantasy. I would have to KNOW that it wasn't because there was something "lacking" in our sexual relationship, but rather that it was just the fulfillment of a fantasy ...

   lying to me - for any "reason," whatsoever - I'm open-minded enough and easy enough to talk to ( remember, I am a counselor ) that I don't think I ever deserve that

The time of your life, sexually - for openers ...

If I "like you," I'll show you a time no one EVER has ...

I'm usually considered VERY good-looking and VERY HOT, sexually - "looks," magnetism, performance, etc.

An entertaining companion, a steadfast confidante, a lifelong friend, charismatic, highly intelligent, diplomatic, kind and concerned ...

So, don't let what I have written here "throw" you - I'm NOT some hard-assed jerk ...  But I DO know what I WANT in a relationship - INCLUDING in new friendships - and I DO KNOW what I DON'T want ...

A primary concern is ALWAYS keeping my life partner happy, satisfied totally, etc. You figure out all of the implications ...

So - be someone who DESERVES that ...

And, I appreciate good looks, too - don't get me wrong - but looks are superficial.

It takes a LOT more to get me interested - and especially  to KEEP me interested ...

And, just for the record also - nothing will please me more than the soon coming day when I can rip down this web site and can change the "marital status" line in my AOL member profile to:  "taken - have a life partner ..."
 
 

I can understand your unfamiliarity with replying to personal ads and any apprehension which you might have in doing so. Believe me - this is nowhere near the first time I have placed one - I have been doing this - searching for that special someone for a special best friendship for the last couple of years now. Have been dating pretty often, but still haven't quite hit upon the situation and person I'm looking for.

At the risk of sounding arrogant, well - you're right - I AM an "excellent person" - and I more or less seek the same. Someone who values the meaning and recognizes the benefits of a BEST friendship, relationship, whatever you want to label it - without having to label it a la-dee-dah "love story..."

So, tell me about you. What you like and don't like - and I don't mean sexually, that's important too - but somewhat superficial and negotiable, isn't it? What is it that you seek? What "turns you on" with a passion? What completely "turns you off?" About people?  About life?  About sex? About anything else you can think of which might interest me about you?

What do you expect in an intimate friendship/ "relationship"? Don't be afraid to be honest - because GIVING is just as important to me, and necessary - as benefiting from the friendship is - perhaps even much more so. I enjoy having someone special to GIVE to and to take care of - as I enjoy having those things in return from the relationship.

So, go ahead - give it your best shot ...

"Dami ..."